Quiet Mommy Momments

You are reading the title of this post and thinking, "I have no idea what she is saying." Or others are like, "yes, they are vital!" In all practicality we (Moms) all have these moments, they just vary in frequency and duration.

Being a parent is the highest career title I've always dreamed of . . . Yet over each year, it is proving to be the most challenging job/blessing/dream I could have ever imagined. You know? My perception was so far off! Like way off. Raise kids to know who Christ is, disciple and love them, were my key goals. But there is so much more. Taking care of the necessities, the extras, sharing the GOSPEL (which involves a life-time ministry to our kids), discipline, getting to the heart of their actions/attitudes, making the hard decisions, standing against culture norm, being a spiritual mentor, being a living example, loving, guiding, supporting ... and the list goes on. I'm just finding this season of my life with kids ranging from (almost) 10 years old to 2 years old, to be exhausting. Are you there? Well I have found a few sanity tips that have been so vital during this time in my life, I call them 'Quiet Mommy Moments'.

First off, we are night owls! Even my kids enjoy staying up late. But for MY SANITY it is crucial they go to bed at a reasonable hour. Sure there are exceptions, but it is not the normal. Our bedtime goal for our kids is 9-9:30. That means they usually wake up between 7-8 o'clock. And after they are in bed it usually leaves me with several hours of down time. Now sometimes I just crash from the days vigorous list of things-to-do. Or lets face it just surviving. But more than not, I'm up until the wee hours. I have time to do some much needed Jesus time. I work on various volunteer things I got going on. Occasionally I read a book, while catching up on my shows. And there is a slight chance I might have an opportunity to work on a hobby (scrap-booking or crocheting).

I break away every week (for about 2 months now) to meet with a friend (a woman, of course) for a couple of hours. This starting out with the intentions of being spiritual mentors and accountable partners to each other. And it has! But I for-see a life long friendship! I can not express the need for everyone to be feed spiritually. May it be in a bible study, small group or just another person to be your spiritual mentor. And some may require more than others.

Now there are several times during a day that I try to have a quiet moment. I've started feeding my boys lunch first. After lunch I put my youngest down for a nap. Then I let the older ones go outside in the backyard. Then I make my lunch, sit at my table, eat alone, and watch them from my window. That's right eating my lunch alone! No 'mommy can you get...' or 'oops I spelt ...'. Just silence. Afterwards, I usually start with some house chores. But even doing them, without constant interruptions seems like I accomplish so much more.

It is a family tradition of ours to take Sunday naps, given the opportunity. Get home, eat lunch, and the youngest is ready for a nap. We allow the others to stay in living room and relax. So they can watch a movie, color or something else quiet. Then my husband and I take a nap in our room, with door open (it is right there, opening into living room). And when the youngest wakes up, we get up. It is so refreshing! And truth-be-told sometimes I have to fight the urge to fill my afternoon with busyness.

I take prolonged bathroom breaks. Yea I know ... weird. I just sit there a little while, serf the web. These are not long breaks, but I need it. I need a moment of distraction ... nothing to do with current situation.

When all the children seem preoccupied I sneak away to my room, and sit on my bed. Just close my eyes and take a breathe. Short lived, I assure you. But hey sometimes that small moment is what gets me through the day.

Sometimes I just simply ask my husband to do something with them. During the warmer months it might just be having them go outside while I work on something inside. Lately its giving them a bath/shower while I do some chore around the house. It seems meaningless, but it helps.

Find your moment. Stay sane. One day at a time.

Ephesians 1:3 (NKJV) 'Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ'

You have everything you need to get through the moment. Ask God to help you use the patience/peacefulness/calmness/strength/self-control/love (and so much more) that He has already given you. 

Just Another Day

It is Saturday. Did I mention we have 3 kids in sports now, crazy I know. As you imagined Saturday, means game time around this house! My mother has been wanting to watch the boys play their games, and I thought this would be as good of a day as any. (Somehow those last words came back to bite me!)

First off my mother lives a little over an hour away. Which meant I had to get up extra early to pick her up, and be back before the first kid's game. She can not drive. She also watch's my nephew during the day, so he got to come along and spend the day watching his cousins play.

The night before my husband and I were talking and figuring out what time I would need to leave in order to be back in time for the first game. Now, I have a master game schedule which includes all three boy's game dates, times, and locations. Yes, of course it is color coded. As we recalled, the first game was going to be 10am in our hometown. Which I figured leaving soon after 7am would get me there, pick them up and be back before the game to began.

6:45 the alarm goes off. Huh, too early ... I push snooze. Okay the second time, I got up. Before my feet hit the floor, my precious little boy is at my bedside moaning. Which I know means, "Mom get me breakfast, turn on the cartoons and come sit with me on the couch." He speaks little (even at 2 1/2 years old), but we have this Mother-Son bond thing going on. Any who, I quickly give in to his demands so I can finish getting ready. As it appears no one else is up, and he is still insisting on me sitting next to him on the couch. Something with that Mother-Son bond, he is so attached. I begin to worry he will throw an all out fit if I leave and might even try to follow me ... So I decide I'll just get him ready and he can go with me. It is now 7:10. Then my oldest comes down stairs, and I feel at ease to go. I check the schedule, posted on our fridge, one last time before I leave. Checking times, and location. Guess what, the game is at 9am! AH! So I quickly go wake up my husband and tell him the game is at 9am not 10am. Which means he has to be there at 8:30 to warm up, with all four kids ready. And off I go ...

7:20 and I am thinking okay I can still be back and not miss much of the game. I can take more toll roads, there isn't much traffic on Saturday morning. Get there at my moms, just over an hour later. Heading back now, and I start to get texts from my husband. Like, "OMG, Jamie!" Oh no, I can just imagine what disaster is happening. After calling him, he tells me there is no one at the fields or any other fields in town. And our dear oldest son, almost 10 years old, forgot his game pants. Uh, the troubles ... these boys were suppose to have their bags checked and ready to go the night before. Where the heck is his game at, Travis texted his coach but had not received at response yet. GREAT! So now I am trying to look at emails to see if I can find the schedule from his team on there. I can't ... I tried texting his coach, nothing ... Finally I called, and his wife answered. Figured out it is at 9am but in the next town, and the following week it will be at our hometown. (Stop right there, I just want you to know that the individual game schedules are behind the master schedule which has been made quite some time. Anyone of us could have noticed the mix up, so I think it is only fair that the blame should be shared. Continue.) Then I received another text from my poor frustrated husband, they can not find his game pants. I called my husband again, and told him don't worry I will pick them up before his game. Travis arrived just minutes after game began. And we arrived shortly after that. (As I got to the game, I realized that my second to youngest was still wearing his day clothes he fell asleep in from last night. But hey they were day clothes, and I did get little dressed before I left. The older two got dressed themselves.)  Game #1

Game ends. I told my husband I'll go home get his game pants, if he will just take the other boys to park and play for a little while. And I will be back before the next kid's game begins. Okay I get home, looked around and found the boy;s pants. I went ahead and grabbed more water and a few more snacks. Thinking we would have to eat lunch sometime. At that time my loving husband text me to tell me that the next game is not is the town he usually plays in. Which I knew, but I presumed that meant he drove to the next town over and found that out the hard way. At that point I had left the house, and was headed back to the games. I thought maybe we will just grab some hamburgers since we already have snacks and drinks. I called my husband. Now, the kid that is about to play ... forgot his cleats. Again I revolt back to survivor mode and try to remain calm. Telling my husband it is okay. He can warm up with his tennis shoes, after I grab the hamburgers I'll go back home and find them. And I will make it back again before the game begins. On the road again back to the house ... So the cleats where in the hall closet. Grabbed them and off we went, again ... Made it just before game started, and he put them on. As we watched the game, we cheered him on, and ate our lunch. Game #2

Now we loaded up for the home stretch, one more game. As we are figuring out who is riding with who, I noticed my oldest is wearing is long sleeve under-armor shirt. Now here in Texas on this October morning there was a slight chill breeze, but it was warming up. And the oldest is in tackle football with pads, I thought he is going to have a heat stroke. As you guessed, he did not bring another shirt ... So I made the next oldest take off his game shirt turned it inside out so the oldest could wear something short sleeve under his pads. Then I let the 2nd oldest wear the 3rd son's shirt, and the 3rd son wore his game jersey. (Really the second boy is small and almost wears the same size as his younger brother, so it wasn't a big deal.) Problem solved. We arrived with a few minutes to spare. Travis decided to stay in van until game started, so little could finish a short nap. The rest of us waited a few minutes, put some sun block on and was ready to go. So we head out. Oldest is warming up with his team, we grabbed some snacks and drinks. We sit in the only shade until game starts. Then as my 3rd son keeps asking me for more food, I realize he did not eat lunch. And the worst mom award goes to ... Me! So I grabbed him a hotdog, and he was happy. Game goes on, kids play on stands. We try not to get toasted. Right as the game ends, my nephew laying down on one of the bleacher seats falls off onto the next seat. Blood is coming out ... and he is not happy! My mom holds him, and I just attempt to find the wound and apply pressure. Husband goes to concession stand, gets ice and band-aids. After every person stops and ask if he is okay... bless them. We clean up the blood, find sight of the wound. It really doesn't look bad. After few more minutes the blood stops, and of course band-aids won't stick. So we load them up. Game #3

Travis takes our boys home. I have my mom and nephew. We stop at nearest CVS. I got Motrin and liquid band-aid. Gave it to him, and he was fine. Even that night my mom said he didn't bleed much and the next day they didn't need to reapply it or give him Motrin. Thank goodness. Bless my awesome husband was cooking dinner when I got home. And we just rested what was left of the evening. Exhausted ... what a day! 

                                                                                         

       

Just another day in my life ...

Matthew 6:34 NIV 'Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.'

Ain't that the truth!

Who Says Boys Aren't Sweet?!

First, get over the fact that I used the word, "aren't" ... It is a word! I'm from Texas and that is what we say, plus this is not a formal essay. Now, we can move on.

I just have to share how precious my little boys can be.

It was my birthday. Yeah ... another year older, whoo-hoo. My boys kept asking, "What are we doing? What are we eating for dinner? (We enjoy birthday dinners, were whosoever birthday it is they get to pick what they want for dinner.)  What are you going to Get?"

I tried to explain. The only thing a mom wants is not to cook dinner on her birthday. As you get older you don't usually get gifts. It is just not a big deal. After the persistent questioning, I could see there was no reasoning.

It was Friday. We had to get up early and travel to our Co-op. Going through our classes. And of course, since we are in-town we make our stops for groceries. By that point it is past little's nap time. Then we get home, I put little down for a nap. And start the process of unloading the days mess from our van. Luckily, older kids do help.

While I'm putting away the food, the boys go off into another room.

Soon they come in with these beautiful handmade bookmarks. All saying, "happy birthday", with hugs and kisses. How sweet! I do enjoy reading, and said, "now I can use these bookmarks for my study book, Bible, and this book I just got." They used some of my favorite colors (blue and purple), and some of theirs (blue or orange). Sometimes it is the little things ...

 

My day did not end there. I like to also add, my husband brought home purple flowers and cards. Plus he ordered a really cool picture frame collage for me! Then he let me take a nap while he made dinner. Then we went to see his niece play in the varsity band during football game. NOTHING better than the simple genuine love from my boys (and my Man!).

Meaningful Prayer with Kids

We want to share our faith with our kids. I truly believe it is my greatest calling to pass onto my children my faith. From who God is, what the Bible says, what it means to be a Christian to knowing how to have a personal relationship with Him.

There are several ways to pass on faith to children. Today I want to scratch the surface on the topic of prayer. Even before their own salvation, there is so much that can be taught on prayer. And what a vital thing to teach our kids, as it is our life line to our Great Creator.

Again there is numerous ways to go about this, I am just sharing a few methods that we have and our currently doing with our young children.

Learning about Prayer in the Bible.  There are several great prayers already written, as well as a lot of information about prayer in the Bible. On either a special occasion that relates to the prayer given or just because we will look up some of these. Read them, talk about what was going on at the time, what is important about that particular prayer.

A Prayer for Guidance - Psalm 5 (I really like verse 3 and 4)
A Prayer of Faith in Time of Distress - Psalm 6
Prayer and Praise of Deliverance - Psalm 7 (I really enjoy verses 11-17)
Prayer and Thanksgiving for the Lord's Righteous Judgements - Psalm 9 (see verses 6-9)
The Model Prayer - Matthew 6:5-13 (also Luke 11:1-4)
Forgiveness and Prayer - Mark 11:25,26

Jesus Prays for Himself - John 17:1-5
Jesus Prays for His Disciples - John 17:6-19
Jesus Prays for All Believers - John 17:20-26
In Everything by Prayer - Philippians 4:6

Pray without Ceasing - 1 Thessalonians 5:17

 Do more than just read these verses, engage them to dig deeper. Was there a particular word that you could put into a simpler term? Ask them questions about the passage. Talk about why prayer is important. Teach them how much God loves to hear them pray. Much like a parent knows their child loves them, but how great it feels to hear it from their mouths.

Change it up. I love the simple prayer my kids had learned in church to pray over their snack in class. But it started to get repetitive and the kids would just speed through it. So yes during our meals we ask God to bless the food and the hand who prepared it, and may it be nutritious to our bodies. But now we ask them to pray for something they are thankful for in addition to what they learned. Also switch who prays for the meals, including yourself. At a time we have had them pray for 3 things they were thankful for, for every one thing they asked for. It often sounded like this, "God please let us win our game tomorrow, thank you for the candy we got to eat today, and thank you for Daddy having safe trip home, and thanks for letting the sun come out so we can play outside. Amen."

Pray for others. Is someone sick, or needs healing? Is someone going through hard time with something? Is there a friend that they are thinking about? Is a brother going to have a game, or a doctor's appointment, or test coming up? At bedtime we have asked them to think of someone they want to pray for. How heartwarming it is to hear.

Pray over them, so they can hear. A good way to teach is by example. We pray for their health, that they may come to know Christ, pray for their future wife, and thank God for something special for each child. It might sound something like this, "Dear God, please help these boys recover from their allergies, I pray that they sleep well tonight, that they come to know you and grow in faith, please be with their future wife and keep her safe and that she will also know you and have a personal relationship with you, thank you for giving me Josh who is so caring and helpful, thank you for Matt and the laughter he brings into our home, thank you for Sam and the hugs he gives, thank you for Daniel and joy he brings, Amen."

Ask for request. Sometimes they don't want to pray, and that's fine. But I often ask if they have anything that they want me to pray for them. This might be for help in a certain area where they fall short in, forgiveness with a sin (like hurting one of their brothers), or over someone that has been on their mind. I find the younger ones seem lost for words at times, but still have some input on what they want to pray for.

Pray for forgiveness. So here lately we have been letting each one (not including Daniel, who still doesn't speak much) pray. They pray for at least one thing they are thankful for and one thing they need to ask God to forgive them. At the end of the prayer if it has to do with forgiving of an action to someone in the room (like hitting or being mean to one of the brothers) I tell them they also need to ask forgiveness of the person who they hurt. Or they could ask help for something. This has more or less been the case with my oldest. He ask God to help him control his anger. To help him to not exaggerate over things.

Prayer is so basic that everyone almost takes it for granted. Passing your faith down generations to come takes effort. For them to know why we pray, who we pray to, and what can we pray about is fundamental to their spiritual growth.

Psalm 55:16,17 (NKJV) 'As for me, I will call upon God, and the Lord shall save me. Evening and morning and at noon, I will pray, and cry aloud, and He shall hear my voice.'

As parents it is our job to disciple our kids. So in the next few post I will be sharing how we do that in the most practical ways.

Homeschool Snow Day!

So this post started with a little conversation with my oldest son.

Oldest- "I hope it snows tomorrow so we can have a 'Snow Day', and we don't have to do any school work!"

Me- "What? Oh, no. We are having school tomorrow. I would rather do school on a snow day than a warm day."

First thing the night before we decided to declare the day a "Pajama Day," some did and some of us ended up changing anyways.

We even decided to do extra school work since there would be little playing outside time. Which lately school has become a bit of a chore with the oldest one, I think he is ready for warm weather and more play outside. Guess what, he did all his work, plus extra, under 2 hours. AMAZING! I think he realized school is coming to an end (so is this cold weather) so the faster he gets done with school the more time he will have to play outside when it's warm.  

We brought out play-doh, which is not an everyday thing. I personally am not a supper fan of play-doh but kids love it.

We made special treats, my boys love to help bake. Homemade chocolate chip cookies and rice crispy treats.

We brought out the water paints and just let their imagination go. Matt of course drew then painted his favorite TMNT, Ralph.

And of course they did play in the ice/snow! Homeschooling means we are together already for normal 'school days'. 'Snow Day' for us as homeschoolers doesn't mean no school. And we are okay with that. We would rather continue with our school schedule, plus more, and when it's warmer we will have a 'Warm Day' where we ditch school work for playing outside all day!

Hope y'all have a blessed day!

Psalm 113:3 (New American Standard Version) ' From the rising of the sun to its setting The name of the LORD is to be praised.'







                                                            
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    

What to do with that Ham Hock from Christmas

That winter weather has come back again around these parts. It had us craving something hot! I knew there was a ham hock from Christmas in freezer. So the hubby and I went searching for a recipe. And of course what happens when you look for something online ... there were a lot of recipes! So I took what I liked from this one, added a few things from that one and this is what I came up with.

Ham Hock and Bean Soup in Crockpot

Ingredients:
Ham Hock (ham bone with some meat on it), cooked and defrosted
24 oz can of beans (any kind, I like pork and beans)
4-5 stocks of celery, chopped
4-5 carrots, chopped
2 cloves of garlic, minced
32 oz of chicken broth
8 oz can of tomato sauce

Directions:
Put everything in crockpot. Can cook low for 6-8 hours or high for 4 hours. Great with cornbread!
I love Ree Drummond's recipe for cornbread, you will have to look it up.

One Little Moment ...

Before I write a post I usually take time to cogitate it over, and this one has been weighing on my heart to share. Let's just face it, life is crazy. It's busy. I believe we all can fill our day with stuff! From school, house chores, hobbies, sports, games, family, friends, events, field trips, co-ops, shopping, church, church events, ... the list goes on. Now, some of those things are very good. Some are obviously necessary. Somewhere to the very top of the list, should be spending valuable time with your kids.

I know, duh. The key word is VALUABLE time. And that is the challenge. An added challenge is when you have more than one child. Some times I do things that I think the kids are just going to love, guess what .. it doesn't always work out. Just for an example I made a project where we were going to make paper mache globes. Thought they would love getting their hands dirty and building something, turns out not so much. Also each child can have different wants and desires. That might mean diving into an hour long project with one child, or as simple as cuddling with another. I'll give you some of the things I do with my kids that seem valuable to them, and how that is different for each one.

First child (9 now) - he loves science, art, music, sports, board games and video games. I also know he is a very loving and caring kid with at times a sensitive heart. He needs verbal affirmation. When he talks about wanting to make something I have to take careful notes, at times that means helping him see it through and encouraging him along the way. When he is really passionate about something, trying to equip him with materials he needs to explore that desire. Gently pushing him forward when he stumbles on something he sees as a challenge. I have found the most powerful thing I can do is to tell him I love him, no matter what. Imperfections and all, encourage him to do his best and sometimes that won't be perfect.

Daredevil (days away from turning 6) - creative, mechanical, loves sports, playing with others, not sure he knows the line of fear from fun. He works well with others and needs physical touch that shows he is loved. This kid is not picky about what we do as long as we do it together. It could be watching a movie, sitting beside each other. Or building legos together. He also is the one that doesn't like restrictions on his creativeness. Give this kid some water paints and paper and let him blow you away with his imagination. Which also means not freaking out when he wants to turn my leaving room into a fort. Taking every couch seat and blanket. To be so independent, he surprisingly is the one kid that a tries to sleep with us. I am convinced that he wants that cuddle time to feel loved. Although we do try to discourage that from occurring regularly. A simple hug seems to convey love best to this one.

Love Bug (3 years old, but will be 4 in May) - silly, playful, sensitive, theatrical.  Loves to help others and desires physical touch. These middle two kids are pretty similar. Except one is mechanical and one is more sensitive. So he also enjoys just doing things together. Lots of cuddles and hugs. I do have to be more cautious of his feelings. He wants to be included, and sometimes the best thing is for me to just hear him out and give a good hug. If I go somewhere he wants to go too, if I am working on something he wants to do it too. I guess you can say this one fits the title of 'momma's boy'. Although I can't always take him or always include him, I do as much as I can because that is what this boy truly desires.

Crazy (in a month he will be 2) - playful, tough, independent, mechanical, loves cars and blocks. He likes to help momma with chores, and play with big brothers. He is still growing and his own personality is still coming out. As of now he is almost a mixture of the older three. He likes to be included in everything we do, even if it may be difficult for his age to do the same thing. He also desires a physical show of love. That means lots of hugs, and playing together.

No matter what chaos the day brings, I have to ask myself did I give my children at least one little moment of valuable time. Did I show or say I love them? Not saying every day I think I did well, but it is definitely a goal. Time is short and our kids grow up fast.

Ecclesiastes (NKJV) 9:12 'For man also does not know his time; like a fish taken in a cruel net, like birds caught in a snare, so the sons of men are snared in an evil time, when it falls suddenly upon them.'


 

10 Blissful Years of Marriage: Part 2

10 years ago ...

Some of these things we learned early on, and some did come later. Either way, by keeping these things in mind to avoid it has significantly helped us!

5 things we Keep Out of our Marriage:

1.) Playing with fire. Have you ever heard, 'don't play with fire, or you'll get burn'? You can't toy with temptation and not expect to get tempted. I don't think its too far fetch to imagine a spouse cheating when they are often going to bars, clubs, or hanging out a lot with the opposite sex. There have been times when one of us has hanged out with co-workers, or college friends, with out the other, but that is the exception not the rule. Girls (or guys) if you text your guy (or girl) BFF about stuff you won't reveal to your spouse, you are asking for trouble. Also we have made a point that if the other ask us to respectively un-friend or stop talking to someone, we do it! A 'friend' is not worth the fight. Which if you ask me there is just certain common rules you have to have when having friends that are the opposite sex. But that is strictly just me. I do think that whatever you and your spouse agree on for boundary lines with opposite sex friends, you should follow them respectively.

Matthew 26:41 (NKJV, as well as all the others) 'Watch and pray, lest you enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.'

(Here are some more verses that speak about this 1 Corinthians 6:18, and Proverbs 6:27-29)

2.) Bad advise. Everyone has advise; about parenthood, life, success, finance, marriage, career ... But as my father-in-law put it 'you don't take financial advise from someone who is going broke.' Seek older couples that seem to be happy (I say 'seem' because we all have flaws). Go to marriage conferences, read studies together, and pray together. But please don't listen to your co-worker about marriage when he is one wife two and seemingly unhappy with their marriage. Or take advise from your friend that seems to do nothing but complain about their spouse. Also guard your lips, don't speak ill of your spouse. At the bottom I'll list some books we have done and enjoyed.

Proverbs 19:20-21 'Listen to counsel and receive instruction, that you may be wise in your latter days. There are many plans in a man's heart, nevertheless the Lord's counsel-- that will stand.'

3.) Culture views. Wow I could go on and on about this ... Lets just say that the world's view and God's view of marriage is strikingly different. The world says 'I love you, until xyz (may it be bankruptcy, adultery, slander, or just when until I get tired of you).' God looks at marriage like He looks at the church, how many times have we seen the church fail?! (Look at Ephesians 5:2-33) Don't get me wrong there are certain things that permit divorce in God's word. My point is now people take it for a salt of grain and throw it over their shoulder. Marriage takes effort people, a lot! The hope is at some point it gets easier. I think I'm getting a glimpse of that now, but I know the road ahead of us is long.

Romans 12:2 'And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed be the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.'

4.) Anger. Truly there is no room for anger or bitterness when trying to love someone. Holding that emotion against your spouse does not allow you to love them fully, and will eventually seep out into other aspects of your life. Bring up the past is another way of holding a grudge, and you can't move forward or grow when you keeping going back (to whatever you won't let go). If something is bothering you don't let it get to your boiling point. Talk about it, tell your spouse why it bothers you and work on an prevention measures if necessary.

Proverbs 15:1 'A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word turns up anger.'

5.) "It's all about Me' syndrome. You know the I have to have it my way, when I say, and how I like it type. Or the it's all about what I want to do. What I am interested in, does it please me, am I happy. When one of you (and sometimes we take turns!) have this mind set it can often leave the other spouse left out, alone, or even mad. There are times when one of us needs to escape or spends time on our self, that helps build up our self and/our marriage or just for plain sanity reasons! I often go shopping and run errands with all four kids (mind you I am with them pretty much all the time), and some times it is a huge relief to go grocery shopping by myself. A couple of months ago my husband went to a men's conference with his father and brother. We all have hobbies and interest, but be careful they don't take over all your time! Lets say you like to golf (mind you there is nothing wrong with golf) you go every Saturday to golf which takes at least 4 hours, this coming Saturday you miss your kids game because it was during your 'you' time. Are you then putting yourself over your family? Not to say missing one game of your child's sport activity is bad, but just be mindful of these things they have a way of consuming your time and effort.

Proverbs 16:18 'Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.'


Here are some books we have read and enjoyed over the years!
the BIBLE:
Adam and Eve, Genesis 2:21-25, 3:16-21
the Virtuous Wife, Proverbs 31:10-31
the book of Song of Solomon is a beautiful love letter
Marriage and Divorce, Mark 10:1-12
Principles of Marriage, 1 Corinthians 7:1-16
Love- the Greatest Gift, 1 Corinthians 13:1-13
Marriage- Christ and the Church, Ephesians 5:22-33
Christian Home, Colossians 3:18-25
Submission to Husbands and a Word to Husbands, 1 Peter 3:1-7
Law Concerning Divorce, Deuteronomy 24:1-5
 -There is so much wisdom from God's word, He is the great counsel 

'The Five Love Languages' by Gary Chapmen
'Love Dare' by Alex and Stephen Kendrick
'For Men Only' and 'For Women Only' by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn
'Songs in the Key of Solomon' by Anita Renfroe
'Sexperiment: 7 Days to Lasting Intimacy with Your Spouse' by Ed and Lisa Young

Oh my, how our love has multiplied!

10 Blissful Years of Marriage, Part 1

 Travis

 December 3, 2004

                     

Jamie (Me)

Wow, I can't believe it has been 10 years! Okay, Okay the 'blissful' might be a touch of an exaggeration. Our marriage seems so second nature right now, but I vividly remember those early years of chaos. We were young (17 and 19 to be exact), had no financial set-up, Travis was steadily working on his bachelor's degree, we both had full time jobs, and often had other family members living with us (yes us, the young newly weds)! True now with four boys from 9 years (well about to be 9 years old in a few days) to an almost 2 year old, things are seemingly chaotic at times. But those first few years were certainly the toughest. And I know we have many more years of unexpected journeys ahead of us. There has been many bumps and curves, but we have found a few things to keep us steady. I will first post about the 5 things we keep in our marriage and next will be the 5 things we keep out of our marriage.

5 things we Keep in our Marriage:

1.) Spouse's desires above your own. Yes it's true, first priority is God but your spouse comes second. If you come into a marriage with the mindset of, 'would this please my spouse?' you will truly be ahead of the game! Even now, as this is the busiest time of the year with my husband's job, if I have time I pick up slack on the house chores that he usually does. If he has to work at home I might take all kids to karate practice so he can work a little in silence. Or when he really desires something I try to find a way in the budget to see it gets done. As well, if he knows I really want new clothes or shoes he always says, 'get it'. He knows I know the budget and wouldn't ask for it if I knew we couldn't afford it. There might be other things we could buy with the money, but every once in awhile it's okay to splurge. It's also in all those little things we do everyday. Like when its the weekend and you both are working on your own little projects around the house, asking if he needs a drink when you go and get yourself one. When you get up to get yourself a late night snack, do you ask if they want anything (I'll admit I'm not the best at this)? Or do you make sure to spend reasonable amount of money for lunches so there is money in budget for you to pick up dinner one night to give her a break from cooking? Do you earnestly try to pick up your clothes and put them into the dirty clothes basket, instead of the floor, because you know it drives her crazy? Marriage is a work-in-progress relationship, but always putting your spouse above yourself will definitely keep it moving forward.

Philippians 2:3 (NKJV) 'Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.'

2.) Always forgive. Oh ... all the 'intense fellowship' (as we call them) we have had. How to properly load the dishwasher, what's included when you do the dishes, why we are always late (Jamie's Time, as he calls it), and on and on the list goes. We still might have a few of these 'intense fellowships,' luckily not as often. But I think it boils down to what is an acceptable standard, is this really worth the argument and forgiveness. I hate doing dishes! I hate even more having food left out, especially over night. So the agreement is he does dishes (loads however he wants as long as food is off when they are done, we do have a dishwasher), and if there are too many for one load he at least washes the dishes off for next load. Yes, there will be more important things to argue about. Like backing each other up when disciplining the kids. Again agree on terms, stand by them, and forgive each other of mistakes. We will all make them. That's another thing, admit you are not perfect ... you make mistakes too (this again is more my problem, I like to say it's a woman thing)! There will be even more pressing issues ... but still is it worth having a marriage in division? Who wants a marriage with constant discord? Right the wrong, forgive and move on. 

Ephesians 4:32 (NKJV) 'And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.'

3.) Budget. Set a budget together. Know what your income is, what your bills are, and where any other money is going. We have made a spreadsheet, has everything on it! We have always paid bills first, set money aside for food and gas, and the rest is extra (of course we like to set aside for all those unexpected cost too, like new tires). If there is something we want that might be a big purchase we discuss it before buying. Maybe it's because we started with nothing, but we have always had one checking account. Sure there are some very valid reasons why not to ... but if this is a marriage you have got to trust and work together with your finances. I have always heard finances is one of the top reasons for divorce, and I believe it! If nothing else, it can be very stressful at times. Since we got a house, we have also made a list of projects around the house we want to do. We talk about it, set goals, and prioritize them by what needs to be done and what is more of a luxury.

Luke 14:28 (NKJV) 'For which of you, intending to build a tower, does not sit down first and count the cost, whether he has enough to finish it'

Hebrews 13:5a (NKJV) 'Let your conduct be without covetousness; be content with such things you have.'

4.)Communicate. This will also make #3 a lot easier. Be direct, say what you mean. Not being direct only leads to frustration. I use to want him to 'know' what I wanted without me having to tell him. But I've come to realize that is just not realistic (at least with my spouse). True at times he does know, but being upfront with things makes it clear. Also talking about what each of you need out of the marriage is important too. I know Travis is not the best gift giver (and to be fair I am not always easy to please) so if I really want something I tell him exactly what I want. For example I gave him several options for mother's day gift that I would like (I got a kitchen aid), and I have to say he did great! Or for instance (we let the boys pick a small gift for each parent) I told him I would like the boys to get me new warm pajamas for Christmas one year, and he took them to the store and helped them pick out something he knew I would like (pj bottoms with pockets and they have a lot of green in it). Other times I might just tell him I am feeling lonely, and we need some 'us' time. So he might try to focus a little more on making sure we get some quality time in. He might tell me he feels not needed, or under appreciated. Knowing one of his love languages is words of affirmation, I might try to be more verbal about thanking him when he does something for us. I don't know when you might manage to fit communication in with your spouse, but we find ourselves talking late at night right before bed. Not always meaningful, but also the small things like; how was work, did you finish that project, how were the kids today, what are our plans this weekend, etc. ...

Matthew 5:47 (NKJV) 'But let your 'Yes' be 'Yes,' and your 'No,' 'No.' For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.

5.) Dating. Our date nights mainly consist of a movie rental and late night snack now, but we make the time! We are actually about to go on a double date night with friends to see a Christian comedian (Tim Hawkins, he is awesome!). We also enjoy outings with the family, every year we go look at Christmas lights. And this year being our 10 year anniversary I really want to go to Santa Land (near Tyler, Texas), it's a drive for us and a little pricey but knowing how much I enjoy this (as the rest of the family too) we are going this year! We enjoy our family (hint the four kids!) which also means we enjoy time together as a family. Yes, there should be some nice, quiet, without kids, dates too! But with kids our age, that is hard to manage. Why not make it a family outing? Keep the romance going! What ever that means to you (hint guys: this might not always be dinner), it could be little gifts like; flowers, chocolate, fruit basket, etc. Find out what romance means to each of you (and also just things you like to do) and make it happen!

Proverbs 5:18-19 (NKJV) 'Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, let her breast satisfy you at all times; and always be enraptured with her love.' 

Part 2 will come soon! 

 

10 years later!

My Thanksgiving Favorites!

The Ham! I know traditionally it's turkey, but we decided to switch it up this year. Ham for Thanksgiving and turkey for Christmas. DISCLOSURE this is not a picture of my ham, sorry so busy cooking and everything I forgot to take a picture! Goal for next year. Yes we had a Thanksgiving meal with my side of the family last week, and on Thanksgiving we will have a meal with husband's family.

Ham
Ingredients:
Ham
2 cups water
2 beef bouillon cubes
12-14 oz can of pineapple chunks
small jar of cherries (won't use cherries, just the juice)
toothpicks to hold pineapple chunks on ham

Directions:
Preheat oven to 350.
Put ham in roasting pan.
Add 2 cups of water with the 2 cups of beef bouillon.
I cooked ham on 350 degrees for 20 per pound. Last 30 minutes I took it out, made sure it was 165 degrees with meat thermometer. 
Took pineapple chunks out of can and stuck them on ham with toothpicks. Then poured the juice over ham. Next I held back the cherries with the lid of the jar, and poured the juice over ham.
Put ham back in oven for the last 30 minutes. Turned out juicy!

Classic Green Bean Casserole
Ingredients:
1 cup of milk
pepper to taste
2 - 10 oz can of cream of mushrooms soup
2 - 14.5 oz cans of cut green beans, drained
Approx. 2 cups of french fried onioins

Directions:
In 9x13 baking pan mix all ingredients (except french fried onions).
Bake for 30 minutes at 350 degrees.
Stir, then top with french fried onions. I like to just go on outside. Bake additional 5 minutes.

Newest Addition - Corn Casserole (A friend once shared her recipe, of course I lost it and had to find one similar online. It turned out great!)
Ingredients:
15 oz can of whole kernel corn, drained
15 oz can of cream-style corn
1 package of Jiffy Corn Muffin mix (8oz)
1 cup sour cream
1/2 cup melted butter
1 cup of shredded cheese

Directions:
Preheat oven to 350 degrees.
Mix all ingredients together (except cheese) in 9x9 greased pan.
Bake for 45 minutes, until middle has settled.
Take out, sprinkle on 1 cup of cheese. Put back in oven for 5-10 minutes.

Pecan Pie- Husbands favorite!
Ingredients:
Pre-made 9in. pie crust (I like the frozen kind, make sure to poke with holes and bake first)
1 cup white corn syrup
1 cup light brown sugar
1/3 tsp salt
1/3 melted butter
3 eggs
2 cups pecan halves
1 tsp vanilla extract

Directions:
Cook pie crust as directions indicate.
Mix eggs in small bowl and put aside. Mix all other ingredients (expect pecans) in separate bowl, then stir in the eggs.
Put pecan halves onto plate (make sure they are spread out) and put in microwave for 2 minutes. When done put the pecans in pie crust. Next, add the filling into the pie crust. Place pie on cookie sheet in cause some spills over. (Lesson learned first time I made it.)
Preheat oven to 350 degrees and cook for 30 minutes add time if middle is not settled.

Well this is certainly not all that was on our table, but those are our favorites! Hope this helps any last minute cookers looking for a new way to cook something.

Up next will be a tribute to my upcoming 10 year anniversary with my amazing husband!

Thanksgiving Break

Phew ... it's finally here, Thanksgiving Break! I don't know what your busy life schedule includes, but we have been anticipating this break. Break from school and our regular humdrum schedule. Looking forward to the FOOD, some great fall weather so kids can play outside, and spending some quality time with family.

This is a picture of all my boys playing outside on our trampoline. They slept in (well most of them), and when they all got up and realized how warm it looked outside the first thing they did was to ask to go outside. Of course I couldn't say no, they were still in their pajamas. You truly have to enjoy this fall weather when you can, because here in Texas it doesn't last long.

Some of the things on my check-off-list to do this break are:
- Buy some Christmas and birthday gifts.
- Finish up sewing project (making tote bag from old jeans and dress).
- Go through the dreaded mail and shred all the dang credit cards they try to send to us! Or other junk mail that has any personal information on it, uhh I hate doing this!
- Let kids play outside as much as possible! Seriously you never know when it's going to get too cold or wet here.
- Of course eat lots of food, THANKSGIVING is the best!
- Spend time with family outside our immediate family while we can.
- RELAX try not to consume every moment with something planned to do, this is actually really hard for me to do.

As far as teaching what Thanksgiving is really about to our kids, I did a few different things this year. First I have always heard about a 'Thankful Tree' there are many pre-planned ideas online, but never did one. I decided just to do one of my own, I got some construction paper and make a tree trunk with a few branches. Nothing fancy as you can see. Cut out some leafs using different fall colors on construction paper. Then as a family (about once a week until Thanksgiving) we sit around our table think about what we are thankful for, and put it on a leaf. Sam (my sweet pea, now 3 y.o.) put down ones like; God and cousins. Matt (my rambunctious 5 y.o.) actually came up with some very biblical ones like; Jesus and that Jesus rose on the 3rd day. Josh (my practical 8 soon to be 9 y.o.) came up with ones like; our house, bible, sports, and family. I thought about what Daniel (my spunky now 20 mon. old) likes and wrote down things like; candy and cars. Dad was very insightful and wrote things down like; heater, home cooked meals, and a job. I put down things like; coffee and warm clothes. We all put down; friends, veterans, and grandparents. We still need to add some, but this was so simple and really made them think about how blessed we are.

I also just printed out some thanksgiving pictures, that they colored. We talked about how the Pilgrims came over and had a very rough first year in America. How the Indians helped us learn how to grow corn and other things for food. The first Thanksgiving the Pilgrims and Indians gathered together to celebrate their friendship and the hardship they had overcome. They used watercolors to paint the Mayflower. My oldest has learned some more facts in history but, really just used an informal way to learn and talk about Thanksgiving. 


1 Thessalonians 5:18 (NKJV) 'in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.'

Up next on my blog will be my Thanksgiving Menu!

What is on My Lunch Menu

Grilled Cheese and Egg Sandwich

We first got the Egg Sandwich recipe from my sister-in-law, we just added our own twist to it. Thanks Kim! It now has become a weekend favorite.

What You Need:

Bread (slices depends on how many sandwiches you will make)
Eggs (boiled, estimate 1 per sandwich)
Miracle Whip (1 heaping tablespoon per egg)
Butter (to spread on sandwiches)
Cheese (I used velveeta and mozarella)

Step 1.                                             

Boil eggs.
The best way I (well actually my husband found this out online, we tried it and love it!) have found to boil eggs is to put eggs in pan, fill with water a little above the eggs, put on stove to boil, once it reaches a good boil turn off heat, leave on burner and put on the lid, then set the timer for 10 minutes.

 Fill pan with cold water. Let them sit for a few minutes to cool off. Then I empty water. Set eggs on counter, so I can use the pan to put the egg shells in. I tap an egg on the counter, then roll it. This cracks the whole egg.

 I get a piece of the shell and try to grab that thin layer under it, then it peels nicely.

 Had to take this picture of my helper peeling eggs with me.

Oh I love this egg slicer! I am sure I just bought it at Walmart or something. It first cuts them into wedges then smaller slices if you want.

I used four eggs. Kids wanted a boiled egg on the side of their grilled cheese sandwich.

 Since I used four eggs I added four heaping tablespoons of miracle whip.

 Use a spoon to mix. This is what the egg mixture looks like.

 Now I prepare for the grilled cheese sandwiches. We love to use velveeta, and I had some left over mozzarella slices I used too.

 I went ahead and spread the butter on the bread. I like to put butter on both sides!

Yep, that's how high our stack is. Almost the whole loaf.

 Next, I put one slice of bread on the griddle then add a piece of each of the types of cheese, then add the other piece of bread. I love my griddle, it works great for grilled cheese sandwiches, french toast and pancakes (and more, but that's what I can think of)! Also great to bring when camping.

 For those of us who wanted the egg in sandwich, I opened the grilled cheese sandwich right after I put it on the plate. Then added a good amount of egg mixture.

Yes, we use paper plates. Its lunch and its the weekend, don't judge me.

 End result. This is what kids plates looked like.
One day they will appreciate my new meals, right ?!?









This is what our plates looked like.

Yes, that is ketchup on our plates. We dip our grilled cheese and egg sandwich in it, don't  you?

Things I Ask Myself as a Mom

I am not sure if its because I live with five boys (yes, including the husband!) as I have no girls to compare to, but I often hear myself repeating these same questions!

Things I Ask Myself as as Mom...

- How did that get there? Like crayon marks on my walls, stuffed TMNT Ninja in my bed, marbles in my shoe, toy snake in husband's boots, hot wheel cars in shoes, lotion squeezed out on rocking chair, can food in drawer under stove, etc.

- How does he sleep like that? To unusual positions to weird places. Some weird places they fall asleep would be in my closet (hiding), down the hallway, in highchair (during dinner), on bathroom floor (without pull-up on, after pooping mind you), and the latest on the staircase.

- Why can't they pee in the toilet? Not on the lid, seat, around the toilet, floor, trash can by the toilet,   on the rug around the toilet, in bathtub etc.

- What did he just say? Oh the things, like; poopy head, peebuddy, fart face, Bobby head (not sure where this came from?), and basically anything else to do with pooping or farting.

- What is that sound? Usually silence is scary, but with these boys its NEVER quiet. Constant noise. From hearing them jumping off something upstairs, spilling legos everywhere, crying (the hurt cry), belching, farting, making up songs while they poop, ninja fighting, rolling down the stairs (themselves or toys), etc.

Yep, that's my BOY!

Nehemiah 8:10b 'Do not sorrow, for the joy of the Lord is your strength.'

I am laughing out lout as I am recalling some of these things (yes they all have happened). But sometimes as they are actually happening it is not so funny. I have to constantly remember my strength is in the Lord. And BOY do I need strength with these 4 boys (especially that second child, gotta LOVE him)!

Fall, My Favorite Season of the Year

Sometimes all I can do is just stand in awe of God's wonderful creation around me. Fall is my favorite season! Today as the kids and I were outside, there were about 10 butterflies fluttering around the flowers in our yard! It was so BEAUTIFUL.

Why I Love Fall-

The sun is shining bringing warmth, but there is a nice cool breeze

Tree leaves are changing colors and falling

There are still some flowers

Butterflies are everywhere

Time to pull out the sweatpants and sweaters

I love wearing the fall color, plum

Using my crock pot to make stews and soups

Baking cookies all the time

Drinking lots of hot tea, coffee and chocolate

Candles that smell like apple-cinnamon or pumpkin pie

Going to sleep feeling cool enough for a warm comforter

Cuddles in blankets

Open windows and not using the heater or ac

THANKSGIVING a time to cherish what family, friends, and food we have!

Genesis 1:14 'Then God said, "Let there be lights in the firmament of the heavens to divide the day from the night; and let them be for signs and seasons, and for days and years;'

You Know You are a MOM When ...

These are just a few things I have discovered in motherhood. I am sure you could add more, and the list could go on and on. I hope some will give you a good chuckle or at the least you can sympathize with the amazingly crazy life as a mom.

You Know You are a MOM When ...

#100  you stay home with a child who isn't feeling well because no one comforts them like momma

#101 your kid uses your shirt as a napkin or worse a tissue, eww!

#102 you poke yourself with a needle while sewing a patch onto your child's vest, or repairing a tear in their favorite stuff animal

#103 you stay up way too late, because that's the only time you can get all those mom things done

#104 you can change baby's diaper or clothes while they are twisting and turning trying to crawl away

#105 you are holding your baby with one hand while holding your toddler in the other, so he can use the public bathroom

#106 you have to wait to eat your meal countless times, because a nursing baby is always hungry when the meal is ready

#107 you always have one, or at least one, in your lap while you: grade papers, try to read, eat, work etc. ...

#108 you can easily prepare dinner with a child attached to hip, or on the counter ... or both

#109 your alone time is when you are using the bathroom, if you're lucky ...

#110 date night with your husband consists of a Redbox movie with a late night snack while kids are in bed

#111 you say "silence is golden," but is scary when it actually happens

# 112 you've caught yourself repeating your mother, "if your friend jumps off a bridge would you?"

#113 you say "because I said so" to the never-ending question "but why?"

#114 chores like mowing the yard is never done alone

#115 nothing is ever truly just yours

This is my youngest, now 18 months old, eating my toast. I know he looks so darn cute who could tell him no??

Proverbs 31:28a (NKJV) 'Her children rise up and call her blessed;'

Does Homeschooling = A Lot of Patience?

"Wow, you homeschool? You must have a lot of PATIENCE!" I get this a lot, do you??? I always add, "I have patience, I don't know about A LOT." Patience is definitely a God characteristic. Scripture is full of verses on patience, when you have a moment check some out.

Scripture on Patience:
Hebrews 6:12
James 1:4

Act of being Patient:
Psalm 40:1
Romans 2:7
Romans 12:12
1 Thessalonians 5:14

Stories of those who had to be Patient:
Sarah and Abraham awaiting a heir, Genesis 17, 21
Hannah's pain and trust with Samuel, 1 Samuel 1

Patience is certainly helpful with kids, and yes even more so when homeschooling. But truth be told, it really is something I believe most people learn. Some might start out with more than others, but never-the-less we all need it. If I have learned anything in these past few years of homeschooling, it is that I need more patience. Parenting and homeschooling is an emotional and physical task. At the end of the day I am drained ... emotionally and physically. It takes patience to discipline, correct, show love, care for, and to do and mend the many other task as a parent. I endlessly ask God for patience, endurance and strength to be the best parent I can be.

I often tell my hyperactive now 5 year old, "being patient means waiting nicely." Because you know I have told him a thousand times to "be patient," and he has asked ten thousand times "what does 'be patient' mean?" So now, if asked, he can recite it. Unfortunately, that means at every opportunity we must show them how to be patient. Fist part of 'being patient' is waiting, or time. Do you hear the clock? Tick-tock tick-tock. Do we rush without measure when they take their time finishing a seemingly simple task? What is a reasonable time before we are impatient? Who decides what is reasonable and what is timely? I admit this is not my strong suit either.

Which brings up the second part of 'being patient', reaction. Which is arguably the more important part. When that simple task with your young one takes way longer than it should, how do you react? Harshly, yell, boil with anger and frustration? Oh me, this is where I get my toes stepped on! As mentioned before, I have always dreamed of becoming a mother. I love children. I envisioned myself being calm, soft spoken, and God directing mother. As I became one ... where I thought I was fairly good at has increasingly become obvious I'm still lacking. I yell. I get frustrated. And yes at times I am harsh. I seek biblical guidance in this ongoing quest to be patient with my children.

Getting back to the title of this post, if you homeschool does that mean you have a lot of patience? I have meet some parents that homeschool who appear overwhelmed, impatient, and out of control. I have also meet some homeschooling parents who seem to generate this calm, peaceful, and loving vibe. The same to those parents who are not homeschooling. Some are seemingly patient and some are not. Of course this is an over all picture of patient and not based on a single instance.

True, homeschooling means you are spending more time with your child than the average parent. And I would safely assume the majority of homeschooling parents over time have come to practice patience with grace. After all, the alternative would to go insane (ask how close I am to that?haha).

Does that mean I am patient? Uh, depends ... Over all, honestly I would say no. It sincerely is the one place I think I need the most improvement on. But then again ... if I sent my kids to public school, which that would be the 2 oldest, and I only had to manage 2 little ones for 8 hours a day ... My answer might change. So maybe I appear more patient because I manage all four of them, all day?? Not sure. Homeschooling = Patience ? Myth. I believe it most likely depends on the season of life you are in, and/or the amount of time seeking and practicing patience.

Well there is my thoughts, how about you?

Cleaning List and Schedule

Cleaning List and Schedule

Daily:

- Pick up toys, this is not my detail clean but basically enough that they are off the floor.

Boy's job, I still supervise them some-what to make sure everyone is helping, and there isn't too much playing going on.

- Vacuum living room rug.  

Either one of my two older boys or I will do this.

- Dishes, I hate food left on dishes overnight. If there is not enough dishes to start the dishwasher, then the dishes should be rinsed off ready to go in when there is enough.
*Doing the dishes also includes putting food up and wiping down the table and counters.

I usually cook dinner, so it has been agreed that my husband does the dishes. The boys (except baby) are expected to throw away any food on plate after meal and put plate and silverware on counter to be washed. We also are starting to ask older two boys to help unload the dishwasher, or after we have washed them off to help load them in the dishwasher. 

- Sweep kitchen and dinning room floors, of course after dishes are done. 

I usually do this. 

Weekly:

Monday- is laundry day. I try to wash, dry, fold and put up all the clothes. 

I am the main one that does this, but boys do help fold and put up some of their own clothes.

Tuesday- I will wash the towels, bedsheets, and blankets. I usually do bedsheets and blankets every other week.

Again this is mainly my task, boys help some.

Wednesday- Beside the daily cleaning I try to take this day off of any other house chores.

Thursday- Now we start the detail cleaning. We begin with picking up toys downstairs or other misplaced items. Then we go upstairs, empty out the toy tubs in toy room and organize them. For instance the legos have their own tub, costumes in another, hot wheel cars have their own case.

This is primarily the boys responsibility, but I do help and check on their progress.

Friday- Starts off by picking up any toys or miscellaneous things that need to be put up. Then we start vacuuming downstairs; couches and rugs, then vacuum upstairs (there is carpet floors upstairs, downstairs has wooden floors and some tile).

Boys do upstairs (game room and their rooms) and I pick up down stairs. They do the vacuuming downstairs and I usually vacuum upstairs.

Bathrooms- I clean mirrors, counters, toilet, and bathtub. Top to bottom, I wait to sweep and mop the floors when I do the rest of the floors downstairs.

Kitchen- Wipe counters, table, and fridge. Again I wait to do floors last.

Dust- any wooden furniture downstairs. 

Sweeping and mopping- I start by sweeping the tile in the front entrance. Then I roll up the rugs downstairs and move them on tile in front entrance. I also move anything else I can of the floor downstairs into entrance, like: office chairs, tub of blankets, few of baby's toys, dog kennels etc... I sweep out the closets and bathrooms first, then the rest of the wooden floor. I use a cloth sweeper and Bona for the floor cleaner to mop the wooden floors. Next  I sweep the kitchen and dinning room floor. Then I use a swiffer wet jet to clean the tile floors; kitchen, dinning room, and bathroom floors. After all mopping is done I start putting the rugs and all the other things from the front entrance back to their place. 

By the time I get to the sweeping and mopping phase the youngest is laying down for a nap, while the older three either play quietly upstairs or sit on couch and watch a movie. 

This is my ideal cleaning list and schedule. Although if I am expecting guest during the week, I move the cleaning schedule up accordingly. Sometimes I will do the necessary laundry on Monday, hold off on the other laundry and do the rest of cleaning on the day of or before expecting guest.

Monthly Cleaning

Well I really don't have one. I try to pick one extra detail cleaning thing and add it to my weekly cleaning, when I have time. So some things get done once a month and some more frequently as needed. 

Extra Detail Cleaning List:

- Clean ceiling fans

- Wipe doors, light switches, dashboards, etc.

- Clean kitchen cabnits

- Clean out microwave (not used that much)

- Wipe inside and outside of washer and dryer

- Take apart the vacuum parts (the ones I can) and rinse them off and let them dry

- Sweep garage, throw away any trash laying around in there, put away misplaced things that don't belong in garage

- Clean air vents

- Dust picture frames and bookshelves

Seasonal Cleaning 

Its not just Spring Cleaning, I believe every season deserves a good cleaning! Some things might not happen every season of  the year, but at least one season in the year.

Seasonal List:

- Going through all the boys clothes. What fits stays, what doesn't either moves down to the next brother or goes in a box to be pulled down when someone else can wear it.

- Going through all the toys. This will include a keep, throw away, and a give away pile.

- Go through holiday stuff. Is a holiday coming up or did one just pass that I need to put stuff up.

- I also occasionally go through my closet. I either throw or give away what does not fit or I do not want anymore. 

- Go through homeschool room. Organize any papers, books, curriculum etc... Clean, sort, and put away any craft stuff.

Okay there it is. I am sure there is more but that is what came to mind. I don't have this printed out or on a color coded spread sheet. It is so routine, I don't have to have it written down. As boys get older I am sure I will add to what I expect them to do. And this doesn't include our outside chores. But that's another post ...